HARRIS: If you're doing it because you dislike a [group of people], that's racism.
But for Jews, we may feel compelled to date within our own culture not because we disdain others, but because there's always [talk] about the numbers of Jews dwindling and our culture being assimilated. I believe in multiculturalism, but when we marry interracially and have kids, we do in fact dilute our races. She's so light." A friend said, "Well, you married a white man, and you're half white. " Don't we have to accept that there will be some loss?
When my mother, who is white, and my father, who is black, married in 1956, it was illegal in most states.
FLOYD: How early in a relationship should you have a conversation about race?
Do you wait until somebody makes a nasty comment and then say, "Oh, let's talk"? You can't pretend the world is [perfect]; that's not reality, and your relationship will not survive.
My boyfriend, Phil, didn't know much about Indian culture before I taught him, so I was nervous when I brought him home.
But as we left, he touched my grandmother's feet, which is a sign of respect.
KELLINA CRAIG-HENDERSON: I've done in-depth interviews with African American men about their experiences for my book, , and I'm working on a book from the viewpoint of African American women.
FLOYD: So have things gotten better since my parents' time?
My husband, who's 15 years older than me, remembers segregation. FLOYD: Let's talk about the preference to date only within your own race.
Is it racist to say, "I'll date only Indian men"?
It's important for both people to bring their culture to the table and preserve it.